calendarI’ve been getting my butt kicked since mid-November when I experienced a loss that made me nauseous with a frantic, clawing desire to be anywhere but in my own experience. Even though I knew it was coming, it was the kind of loss that once I accepted that it was real, it turned me inside out and my life upside down.

It has shifted entirely the shape, appearance and feel of the threshold that leads into the new year. My old friend Uncertainty has been hanging out with me a lot. Which is, at once, both awful and exciting.

In that, I’ve had on the brain these last few weeks one of my favorite quotes from the hallowed JC.

Joseph Campbell, that is.

“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

And over and over and over again for those of us fiercely committed to planning.

I have a lot of plans for this new year. Big and exciting ones related to Grace & Grit Yoga. Quiet and ordinary ones related to my personal life…

But at this point I can’t help but already hold them with a lot of space and humility and humor as I peer in the direction of the not-yet-opened doorway to the new year and wonder what the hell is truly waiting for me. Certainly more and different things than what I have planned.

In recent days I’ve reworked JC’s quote in my head to read, “We must be willing to let go of the life we thought would make us happy so as to have the life that affords us true meaning.”

Which, I’m recognizing, is shockingly different.

I’m amazed at how distracted I can get by shiny-happy while missing what actually brings me the contentment of embodied purpose, passion and truth.


Stella showing off the I Scream truck.

I’m grateful to recently have connected with Stella Grizont of Woopaah. She’s a positive psychology expert who teaches individuals and organizations like Google, Johnson & Johnson, and Columbia University how to thrive under stress. And her work has been featured on MSNBC, ABC News, The Today Show, and Entrepreneur Magazine.

I fell in love with her and her work when I discovered she had an I Scream Truck that she drives around and lets people have time to go inside and scream and thrash around with whatever emotion wants to move through their body. I want one. Really bad.

Anyway, she let me get a sneak peak at her upcoming online course called The Science of Happiness: Hacks and Skills to Flourish. It’s about how being happy really isn’t all about being happy. What I appreciate about the course is that it’s evidence-based research (which my brain eats up) presented in a personal way (which my heart adores) where you are encouraged to practice, play along and be your own authority (which is really the only way anything ever works).

If you know me, you know I don’t like selling stuff, and I don’t often mention other people’s offerings, especially in my blog. But I’ve come to learn some things about myself in the last year, such as: I can’t do everything I want to do when it comes to cool offerings and I’m tired of working mostly on my own.

Because of that, I’ve set up some truly kick-ass collaborations with people who I treasure and whose work is the real thing. People like Mandy Blake of, Kerri Kelly and the rest of the super hero crew at Catalyst Collective and the aforementioned and spunky Stella Grizont.

I’ll be sharing more about our collaborative work in the coming months, but for the time being, I wanted to invite you to take Stella’s Science of Happiness Course with me. The course is self-paced and designed for your busy life with video lectures 8-10 minutes long.  You can start whenever you like and do it at your own pace—it’s on-demand. I love this style of learning!

Stella has been gracious enough to extend a 50% discount on the course to you, my sweet readers, because she and I both think you’ll really dig The Science of Happiness. That makes it only $49!

51ah-QsmGBL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_Plus, the first ten people to register for the course will receive in your mailbox a signed copy of my new book, Homebody Yoga: 28 Days to Bring You Home to Your Body & to a Life Led with Purpose…because it turns out, having meaning in your life is more important than happiness. And having meaning is far easier to access when you’re embodied. Which takes practice. And a fair bit of courage. And sometimes a bit of help, like the exercises and suggestions in the book offer.

You can redeem your access to the course here, and enter the coupon code “graceandgrit” to receive 50% off. Just make sure to redeem your code by January 15th.

Full disclosure: this is an affiliate link. I will get a kick-back if you sign up using it, which you’ll either be delighted by, indifferent to, or turned off from. Either way, that’s the straight up truth.

It’s also the straight up truth that I get asked by a LOT of people to promote their work, but I only do that for people who I’ve worked with, had a good experience with and who I trust that the things you respond to in my work you will respond to in theirs. Stella gets the Jay seal of approval.

Though I truly hope that Stella’s course and my new book meet a need or desire of yours in the first few weeks of the new year, my real reason for writing is to send you my new years salutations.

Instead of wishing you a happy new year, I wish you a meaningful new year.

I wish you the inner and outer tools and resources you need to flourish, as messy and unconventional as that may look.

I wish you all the aliveness that comes from welcoming Uncertainty into the fold of your closest relationships.

And mostly, I wish you a new year bigger than your carefully crafted plans could ever create.